If you don't have anything nice to say …

I know your parents have probably drummed the phrase, "if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say nothing at all," into your head as a child and if not, yay you lol. 

That statement is true. You should not use your words to hurt others. Use them to show the beauty in others as well as your environment. Buttttt I must say I also don't agree with the second half. Don't say nothing at all? How much fun is that?? 

Lol but no. Still do not badger others will your words. On the other hand, it is super unhealthy to keep your frustration and anger inside. It will do nothing but poison your life. It will cloud your thoughts and shape you into someone you do not want to be. So no, I am not now saying it's okay to spew hate at others. But I have found a solution to that comes to a happy median. 

If you don't have anything nice to say, write it down.  Specifically, write a letter. Write out all the bad things. All the horrible details and the crushed feelings you possess. Tell her how much of a fake ass bitch she is or how he can't be a man to save his damn life. Get it all out. Four page letters are just fine, if Aaliyah can do it, you can too. Just let your heart take control. It can be mean, nasty, or straight up cruel. 

 Read it. Over and over until all that negative energy is absorbed into the paper. Cry. Get mad again. Do what you need to do to get YOUR closure. 

And after you're done, throw it away. Throw away all that negativity and that hurt. Throw it away and let it go. Now I know you didn't think I was going to let you mail it. That's not eliminating drama and stress, that's what you call causing more. 

Personally, I can assure you this works. I've written letters to family members, people who I considered friends, and a few miscellaneous others. If it doesn't work for you, you didn't write enough. Yes, that can be a problem. Write it ALL out. Do not save any of that negativity. Your body doesn't want it or need it. 

Do not save the letter. Throw it away. 

Detox your body. Detox your mind. Detox your life. 

5 Tips to Get to the Body You Want & Deserve

Now this is not a post to help jump start your new diet or to help you lose a lot of weight in just a little bit of time.  These are just some simple tips to help you start living a healthier lifestyle that incorporates healthy eating and routine exercise.  I have always had complications with my weight.  Its always been so easy to lose 5 pounds really quick, but pushing past that is always the complicated part.

Now I do want to clarify I am no doctor, but I am human.  I do have the typical weight troubles of a most Americans.  I have succeeded in losing a lot of weight and keeping it off for more than a month. Now after a year is when I started messing up lmao but I'm much more grounded and focused now than I was back then..

Okay so are you ready? Seriously, are you?

1. Find you a reliable workout partner.  You need someone who is just as thirsty to be in shape as you.  For beginners, the best partner is going to be someone who already has a set routine.  That way you have a great foundation and if you just so happen to be a shitty workout partner, they're not suffering also.  Getting serious about being healthy is not just something you wake up and do, it's something you prepare for because it's typically not something we all routinely do.  It's new.  Like all new things, we have to make it habit, it won't mysteriously become one.

2.Write it down, post it, and make sure you see it everyday.  On average we give up working out 1 month after we've started.  Either we're not seeing the results we want, we're tired and other things are coming up, or you've just completely lost motivation.  Do yourself a favor before you even start working out.  Write down the reason you're working out with your starting weight and measurements.  Post it somewhere you'll see it everyday -- bathroom mirror, car dashboard, or even in the refrigerator.   Make sure you are reading this everyday.  You can do this and sometimes you need that reminder from yourself.

3. Simple: up your water intake.  Water flushes out 90% of toxins in our body.  If you simply drank more water without changing anything else, you will lose weight and also clear up your complexion on top of other things. Water is that cheap, all natural detox drink that you need to be drinking.  Now I'm not saying go from two cups of water to eight cups immediately.  But start substituting water for those other drinks you enjoy slowly and watch the changes your body makes.  It's gradual but it's one of those differences you can see and feel.  

4. You notice I have a picture for every tip I've posted? Well honey, I have dozens of pictures in my phone, on my page, and in my home.  Whether it's a quote or a picture of a fitness model, I have motivation everywhere.  The great thing about being human, we don't only self motivate, we get motivation from so many other sources.  Find some great quotes and tape them on your wall.  Make your background someone with an amazing body who also has a body type like yours.  This is the fun part about getting healthy.

5. Stay conscious.  This is not something that happens overnight.  Getting what you want and deserve never is easy.  It always takes some time.  You just have to stay dedicated and work at it.  Giving up is the worse thing you can do, seriously.  One simple suggestion: take your measurements and weigh yourself less.  Measurements show more progress than the scale ever will, remember that.  Know that you have reason and meaning for doing this and stay focused.  In a time where being conscious is a must, keep your consciousness alive with this as well.  

That's all I have for you this time.  One love.

So far I've hit my one month anniversary of eating no pork.  I must say I miss bacon, but I'm loving the way my body feels even more.  I will keep you all updated and I hope you do the same.

Fall Fashion Part 2

Fall Fashion Part 2 by courtney-coco-chanel-woods featuring black glasses

Topshop fish tank
$9.26 - topshop.com

Slim fit blazer
choies.com

Black pencil skirt
$305 - jades24.com

Chinese Laundry peep toe booties
lulus.com

Alice Olivia clutch
aliceandolivia.com

Repossi knuckle ring
$5,630 - ssense.com

Handcrafted jewelry
kewelco.com

Topshop bracelet watch
$110 - topshop.com

Sole Society collar necklace
solesociety.com

Smoke & Mirrors black glasses
shop.harpersbazaar.com

Casetify iphone case
casetify.com

Ilia brown lipstick
ahalife.com

Summer nail polish
violetgrey.com

Stuck

Hello there,

This is a piece I wrote a couple of weeks back when I was in a really bad place. Fast forward to present day, things are much better. Life just has its way of kicking your ass sometimes, but like I always say keep the faith. Whether it be in God, yourself, or another entity. Keep faith in something, it keeps you holding on even when you feel you have nothing to hold on to. 

Stuck

Is it possible to have writers block on your life?

You have the answers in front of you 

But the timings not right

You're ready to take charge and make moves

But your body's all bark and no bite

Is it possible to just be stuck in one place 

You know what you need to do

But your mind and body just won't correlate 

It's 6am and I'm up writing for the first time in months

I can honestly say since September I've been a lil fucked up

I've been mad, angry, real pissed off

I've been crying, breaking shit, punching walls

It's not so much the fact my number 1 gone for a while

More so the way mfs treat you when you down

She broke her back for people, me, I won't even crack a knuckle

And I'm so so serious, no laughs or chuckles

I should go 'Super Bitch' and start pointing mfs out

But I'm gone remain a lady, posted with the fuck you smile

Remember you reap what you sow and karma ALWAYS comes back around

It's 6 in the morning 

I haven't wrote in months 

I've been avoiding my emotions 

Rolling my problems in blunts

Inhaling the bullshit and getting fucked up

It's 6 in the morning and all I want to do is roll up

I guess that's better than rolling out cause shit's kinda tough

It's 6 in the morning and I've been sleeping on someone's couch for a month

SEE … those are the problems I roll in my blunts 

Roll. Tuck. Lick. Get high. 

Reality. Gone. Clouds. Sky. 

I feel like I could have definitely expanded but it was really 6am and I more than likely had work in 3 hours. It was the first time in years where the urge to write woke me out of my sleep. 

Share. Comment. I always look out for feedback, good or bad. 

Some Motivation to get you Through the Week

Good afternoon all!

I'm a collector. I like to collect all types of craziness. Well I'd like to share one of my collections with you. I like to collect little motivational and witty messages. I don't know about you but I'm a quote person. Sometimes keeping a particular quote in my head gets me through the day. So I'd like to share some I saved last week to help you get through this one. 

I hope these help! They surely work for me :-) I don't know if I'm supposed to give credit but follow the pages of their quotes seem to catch your eye. 

Happy Sunday!

I Hope This Can Help You!

I almost gave up.  Almost.  The last two weeks I've been walking around barely here just existing (if you read my previous works, simply existing sucks).  But besides walking around like a drone, I almost gave in.  I almost did something I've never done. 

Now everyone I'm going to give you a glimpse of the struggle so please don't judge.  Most people give you that motivation you need when they've been through it, I'm gone give it to you RIGHT NOW and right here.  Yesterday I was laying on my bed watching the ceiling fan spin and spin and spin.  Laying there I had a negative balance of $4 in my account, an eighth of a tank of gas, and a dead spirit.  I'm laying there literally like "damn what the fuck am I about to do". I only saw two options: move back home or struggle until you have no choice to go back home. After talking to the most inspirational person in my life (well second to my mama) I was just like fuck it I might as well just go back home and try it again later. And yes I laid there and cried, got mad, and cried again.

But suddenly. In my body I felt a jolt. A mysterious jolt that made me get the hell up.  It made me get up so fast.  Something in me told me that if I kept feeling sorry for myself and sulking around I was going to turn right into that person I was feeling sorry for.  And you better believe I did not want to be her.  She's all fragile and judging -- ugghhh she gets on my last nerves lol.  But last night something was at work inside of me and honestly I don't know what it was.  I instantly got up and realized that I needed to take action.  I hopped out of that bed, ran to my car, and hit the library.  I applied for as many jobs as I could in that hour and a half.  Next I started ACTIVELY looking for a cheaper apartment and by actively I mean researching, asking questions, and setting up tours. 

So here's where I leave you all with something a little clearer than my story.  There are 3 things I want you to think about when you wake up, when you're feeling down, when you simply feel like giving up.

1. FAITH. You have to have faith in something or you're going to constantly feel like you're living for nothing.  Everyone needs to believe in something.You can't live day to day just existing, find you something to have faith in and you'll feel better about good and bad circumstances.

2. Communicate.  When you're having a bad day or a bad week that's not something you need to keep to yourself. Let your friends and family know. Every battle you do not have to fight alone. Have someone you feel comfortable talking to because they're really going to come in handy. Shit if need be send me a message and I'll talk to your. Grow your support system. 

3. Don't think, know! You're going to have to know that things are going to get better. If you create a mindset where you're thinking the worst or simply thinking "realistically", it's going to kill your spirit every time. Think & act optimistically in everything you do and everything will get better. That's a promise. 

So no . . . I don't have another job yet. And yes I do still have bill collectors calling my phone. I'm in the midst of this struggle. And guess what? My biopic is going to be soooo good lbs.  Stay blessed. 

Queen Court Invaded Vegassss :-)

Okay well fhe title should tell it all. Last week I went to Vegas for a very very late birthday present to myself. It was quite an experience lol. It was sooo nice to have a vacation with no worries. It was the most peaceful I've been in awhile. I did learn some things that I want to share with you all. You never know when you're going to hit Sin City up. 

1. If you're staying on the strip, know where on the strip you're staying. Well what I'm saying is know what side of the strip you're staying on because I did kind of separate them. There's the turn up, younger crowd side (Flamingo, Mirage, etc.) and then there's the side that's more family oriented and for an older crowd (Circus Circus, Riviera, etc.). Know what side you want to stay on because they're not really walking distance to each other especially when you're trying to feet drunk, be pretty, and explore. 

2. Explore for food. Food on the strip is so expensive. Like really expensive. It's better to travel to downtown Las Vegas for better deals on the food and it tastes a lot better. The Strip has some moderate pricing during their happy hours but you have to be good at catching them. 

3. Beware of promoters unless you're very very timely. So we had an experience with a party promoter where we got set up with admission to a strip club, night club, and day club. And you get a limo to take you. Sounds great? Yeah well at the first club you have to pay for admission, which is $30 and includes two drinks. For the nightclub you HAVE to be there before 12 or the guest list "closes" and you have to pay general admission ($20-$40).  And on top of that if you don't make it to the club, the limo only drops you off at home, nowhere else. So essentially you need to be getting to the strip club (can't opt out) when the damn strippers arrive just so you make it to this other club by 12. Lol a whole mess. And then the day club … you better walk your ass there no matter where you're staying. Limos are limited time only lbs. 

That's the jist of what I wanted to share. I'll post some pics from the trip. You knowwww I had to bring it the best way I know how. Comment and subscribe. I got some good stuff coming soon :-)

3 People to Keep Out of Your Life

Hello my 2 or 3 faithful readers I know its been a while and I apologize.  I feel like I'm always apologizing to you all.  Well I'm SORRY.  I've been a lousy blogger lately.  I've been living and learning a lot and I haven't been sharing.  That's selfish.  Well I'm here to let you all know the type of people I want you to immediately kick out of your life.  And good for you if you haven't met them but this is a go-to list to help you avoid them.  I'm not the type of person to give up on anyone, I mean my life's purpose is to help but remember there are categories you have to divide people into.  You can have one of these people in your life if you're helping THEM but it should NEVER be the other way around.  Friends are angels who uplift you, not blood sucking monsters who bring you down.

1. The Leech -- title doesn't sound appealing at all huh?  You're going to want to stay away from people who simply always take take take from you.  Now I'm not saying, oh don't help your friends out, I'm saying don't constantly help someone who's not even putting energy into helping their self.  If you find yourself constantly giving, not just materialistic things, you need to step back and ponder has these actions been reciprocated.  If you find yourself investing so much and just feeling drained at the end, you my darling have encountered a leech and you need to pluck their ass off (excuse my language).

2. The 'Super honest cause I'm lowkey hating' friend -- have you ever told a friend a little white lie? Like that dress totally does not make you look fat or you look so much better than your ex's new girlfriend and it wasn't true.  Don't stress! As a friend, that's what you're supposed to do (remember there's a difference between a little white lie and a downright lie).  We always had  I, myself, have had occasions where I'm standing in the mirror and I'm blurting out comments about what I need to improve in front of my friends.  As a friend, I NEVER down my friend's for physical attributes, it's just wrong.  There's nothing wrong with putting in honest comments for improvement.  But if you're hearing, "Yeah you are fat as hell" over "Yeah you gained some weight but we can start hitting the gym" or "you ain't got no edges girl" over " your hair has been thinning, I know something you can use", PLEASE PLEASE give that hating hoe what she wants . . .a new friend!

3. Miss Switch It Up -- I've always thought it was great to be able to adapt to all environments, but it's not cool to be adapting to different friends.  Be original and work hard on your brand! That's it and that's all.  You should not be molding yourself to hang with different people.  I'm sure everyone Jay Z hangs out with does not act like Jay Z.  If you have a friend that acts like a different person around every group of friends she hangs with, please get them out your life.  What you don't need is someone to switch it up especially when you really need consistency.

Well guys I had like 2 more types for you but my friends are rushing me for my attention.  There will definitely be a part 2 in the future and I'm sure I will have met some other crazyyyy people to add to this list.

Good night my little glamourettes!

QOD: Life isn't about how to survive the storm, but rather how to dance in the rain.

Change

Just thinking that maybe, possibly, at the end all there will be is … darkness makes me want to live, and I mean really live, not simply exist. It makes me want to love without constraints and never settle. It makes me want to speak when I should and even when I shouldn't. It makes me want to be me with no excuses. I don't know what the "end" is like or even if it is the end but I know what right now is like & I plan on living right now just how I want. Vegas are you ready for me?