I've been seeing a lot and not saying enough …

I just feel like people be looking for the wrong things in people & that's why they end up screwed. Just step back & take a minute to learn yourself. Learn what makes you happy & what makes life so much more worth living to you. Instead of looking for someone who'll help you stay financially stable, look for someone who makes you feel secure and stable within yourself and your relationship. Instead of looking for someone who would make nice looking kids with you, look for someone who you KNOW will be a great parent because of what you've seen from them. Instead of being with someone who makes you look good, be with someone who takes you from your worst day to your best day in a matter of seconds.  I promise you all that at the end of the day none of the materialistic things matter.  After one storm, all that can be gone. And if you're not there with someone you can start over with and build with, you have nothing. I'm not saying financial stability is not important but that's a factor outside of what love really is. Just take a second and think of the person who makes you the happiest, could any materialistic thing change how you feel about that person? I didn't think so. When you meet the one who makes you feel like that, don't lose them.